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How (and Why) to Visit Your Hometown Without Going Crazy

Last Updated: September 9, 2020

How (and Why) to Visit Your Hometown Without Going Crazy
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As some point if you’ve been on the road for a while, you’ll need to visit your hometown. This isn’t always an easy process, with reverse culture shock (yes, it’s a real thing), dealing with evolving (sometimes dissolving) friendships, and an often over-full schedule of things to do and people to see.

After nine years of living on the road, I’ve distilled hometown visits down to a fine art. Here are my hows and whys:

Visiting Your Home town while living abroad? Here are some tips to keep you from going crazy! #expatlife #livingabroad #visitingfamily #TheProfessionalHobo

This post was originally published in 2015. It has since been updated for accuracy of links and content. 

How to Visit Your Hometown

My trick: I only tell about five people that I’m in town. Because in my experience, no matter how long I visit for, it’s never enough time. The first time I flew home after a couple of years of travelling full-time, I went for six weeks, thinking it was sufficient time to see anybody and everybody – including former business acquaintances and casual friends.

It wasn’t.

I was run off my feet, and I departed having barely seen the people who are really important in my life – my family and lifelong friends. It wasn’t fair to them, nor to me (who needed a vacation to recover from my hometown “vacation”).

Ever since I was in a near-fatal accident in 2013, I made some decisions about priorities, and my “chosen family” are tops on the list. We may only see each other every year or so, but our mutual commitment to one another is strong. And we’ve all learned together that we don’t need to live in the same city (or even the same hemisphere) to honour that relationship. So when I’m in town, these are the people I focus on.

Why to Visit Your Hometown

In the last few years, I’ve come to appreciate my visits home for new and different reasons. It’s a great way to “check-in”.

See, your hometown family and friends are (usually) the people you’ve known longest in life. As such, they can be a great contextual baseline for how you’ve changed and grown as a result of your travels. And because of the gaps in time between visits, changes are more evident and observable.

For me, not only can I see and honour how my own family and lifelong friends and have changed and grown over the years (and often in surprisingly similar ways to me, despite a world of distance – physically and otherwise – between us), but I can also see reflected in them (and through their feedback) how I myself have changed and grown. It’s a great barometer for your life, and helps you make sure you’re on the path you want to be on.

For example, a few years ago, I was in a rough spot, and was heading down a path that had some potentially ugly pitfalls. When I returned to Canada for a visit, my family and friends didn’t overtly express their concern, but they also didn’t need to – I saw it.

Over a year later after making some big changes, when I visited my hometown again, I saw just how far I’d come since my last visit. I was congratulated on how happy and peaceful and more together I seemed. At the time I was about to return to Peru to set up a home base, and it helped me confirm that that decision was a good one.

Another year later (this past August), I enjoyed my brief check-in with family and friends in Canada. I’m thrilled to see how they’ve made positive changes in their own lives (and how my worrying about certain people was unnecessary). And I’m also happy to see in their reflections and support that I’m continuing down the right path for myself.

So although visiting your hometown might seem a chore or a bore, if you’re embracing a life abroad, it can also be just what the doctor ordered.

Visiting Your Home town while living abroad? Here are some tips to keep you from going crazy! #expatlife #livingabroad #visitingfamily #TheProfessionalHobo
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  1. Tracey Tullis says

    September 28, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    This was definitely a timely post for me! My family and I are heading home for the first time in over 500 days traveling and I’m feeling a bit nervous about how we’ll manage our time while there. We haven’t told a lot of people that we’re headed home, other than our family. I think keeping it like that until we set foot back at home is the best course of action.

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    • Nora Dunn says

      September 30, 2015 at 4:59 pm

      Hi Tracey,
      Good plan to wait until you’re back before letting (too many) people know you’re in town. I’d suggest if there’s anybody specific you want to connect with, let them know you’re coming in advance so they can make time to see you, and as for the rest, wait until you’re in town and get a lay of the land.
      And remember to have a good time! 🙂

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  2. Amanda Kendle says

    October 1, 2015 at 11:17 pm

    You’re definitely right about not telling too many people you’re in town. I had to get over guilt about that but it was definitely the best way! And reverse culture shock was a huge thing for me. Now I’ve lived back here for – eek, 7 years! – but I still feel a bit like an out-of-towner!

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    • Nora Dunn says

      October 3, 2015 at 9:44 am

      Hi Amanda!
      I wonder if the perpetual feeling of being an out-of-towner has something to do with the innate sense of being a traveler in this world… 🙂

      Reply
  3. Will says

    October 9, 2015 at 3:26 pm

    Nice post, I appreciated a lot for all many reasons. It happens also for who lives far from hometown, but in the same country. I’m Brazilian, living im a a large country as all know, and I see my family and best friends twice or three times a year. It’s sad, but is the real life. What can we do about job, study or something? It’s compplicated…

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    • Nora Dunn says

      October 9, 2015 at 6:31 pm

      Hi Will,
      I appreciate how difficult it can be to live far away from family and friends – and even within the same country! Hang in there.

      Reply

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